A Guide to co*cktail Attire for Men and Women (2024)

co*cktail attire is arguably the leader of all wedding dress codes, but when it comes to deciding what to wear as a guest, the popular choice can get tricky. What is co*cktail attire? Ultimately, it aims to strike a balance between formal and casual, as well as elegant and comfortable. For an event with this dress code, such as a wedding, men typically wear a suit and tie while women wear a co*cktail dress. If you're still not sure what to wear to a wedding with a co*cktail attire dress code, we asked a few etiquette experts to share their tried-and-true tips.

“co*cktail attire is meant to bridge the gap between day and night,” explains bridal consultant LauraLee Baird. “It is still an occasion to dress up, but a full-length gown is not necessary. This merges the silhouette of a garden party dress (shorter) with the fabric and embellishments of a formal gown.” Think somewhere between a sophisticated formal occasion and office or party wear, adds Alena Kate Pettitt, author of English Etiquette: The Motivation Behind the Manners.

Still, with so much ambiguity, co*cktail attire could mean different things depending on the venue, the time of day, and the season. Read on to learn more about deciphering this common wedding dress code.

co*cktail Wedding Attire for Women

“The most important idea to take away from the co*cktail dress code is that your goal is to create an elegant look wearing a knee-length, tea-length, or midi dress,” suggests social etiquette advisor Maria Lucrecia Arguello. “This is not the time to wear a gala gown or a short mini skirt.”

During the day, think natural colors and fresh styles. In the evening, feel free to utilize darker hues and embellishments such as sequins or feathers (so long as your dress doesn’t sweep the floor). Remember: As a female guest, the goal is to look polished and dressy, but not so much so that you take away from the bride. When in doubt, your best little black dress, a pair of sensible heels or dressy flats, some nice earrings, and a classy clutch will always work for a co*cktail event, no matter the venue or time of day. In addition to a traditional co*cktail dress, women can also wear dressy suits or nice jumpsuits paired with heels or formal flats.

co*cktail Wedding Attire for Men

For the men, all experts agree: a suit and tie are required for co*cktail attire. Go with darker hues in chillier months or for evening events, but feel free to wear lighter grays or blues in warmer weather or for daytime celebrations.As for shoes, keep it classy with a nice pair of dark dress shoes that match your belt.

Even if the wedding will be held at a more relaxed venue (such as a beach, barn, or vineyard), if the couple chose a co*cktail dress code, it means a jacket and tie are a must for men. During the formalities, the jacket and tie need to remain on, advises Pettitt. "The only acceptable time to remove your jacket and tie is after the formalities have ended and the sun has gone down and/or the groom or senior male attendants have removed theirs." Traditionally, this means the jacket needs to stay on during dinner, but feel free to scan the crowd, and if others are shrugging out of them before sitting for the first course, it’s fine to do so as well.

co*cktail Wedding Attire Etiquette

While a co*cktail dress code isn’t as strict as white- or black-tie, it’s not an invitation to wear just anything you'd like. The couple are expecting you to dress up for the occasion, and this should be reflected in your outfit. Anything too tight, short, or revealing is a big "no," as well as jeans, ripped clothing, shorts, and sandals (for men).“Having made an effort shows regard for the event and creates a jovial collective mood for all those who attend,” says Pettitt. “Adhering to the dress code is not only polite, but it will help you feel at ease in your surroundings.” If you’re still at a loss, feel free to reach out to the mother of the bride or the maid of honor (never the bride) for further clarification to ensure you look and feel your best.

The venue will also give you a clue as to how strict you need to be with your attire. "Read the invitation for the setting of the event, as co*cktail attire for an afternoon outdoor vineyard wedding would likely be less formal than the co*cktail attire of an evening wedding taking place at a private club," advises Baird.